It Is Not Your Job, It’s You: The Real Reasons You Are Unhappy At Work

At one point or the other, you must have felt bored at the job. The excitement for work seems to have lost somewhere. No matter how perfect the job is or how great the boss is, you feel discontent and always think of looking for another option.  

But you will be shocked to know that every time it is not your job that’s the problem; rather, it’s you. Though it is easy to blame the situations outside for dissatisfaction at the job, but sometimes the problem lies within you. In such a situation, only an honest introspection can help you know why you feel unhappy at work and how to make your job interesting.

Once you accept that it’s not your job, it’s you that’s making you unhappy at work half the problems will be solved. Here are a few signs to prove that it’s you making things difficult for yourself.

You are too sensitive

Bosses are always there to give their suggestion and correct your errors. Now switching the job every now and then while calling bosses too rude is actually your problem, not boss’s. Instead of taking criticism too personally, you should try changing your mindset.

You don’t interact with people

Do you always feel that you are always assigned different tasks from co-workers? This will continue to happen until you directly approach your boss and discuss the things clearly. Ask your boss why you are always given A, B and C tasks when other members in the team get X, Y and Z tasks.

Speaking about the problem is better than blaming others and hampering your work.

You don’t accept mistakes

No one is perfect in this world. Every one of us makes mistakes, which we all need to accept. You won’t be able to correct yourself until you accept your fault. So instead of being defensive, think about solving the problem. Soon you will find yourself doing great at the job.

You don’t give time to the things to happen

 In an organization with a different department and a hierarchy for every task, it takes some time to implement even a simple idea. But you want your unique idea to be implemented overnight and if it doesn’t happen you feel demotivated at the job.

Instead of feeling bad, you should be happy that at least your views were given a chance. Think about the organization where employees don’t even get an opportunity to present their ideas.

No matter what, you should never blame your job for your unhappiness until you properly analyze the situation. When it comes to career and growth, you shouldn’t just look at one aspect. Take ownership of things and find the real reason behind your displeasure at work.

Stop Existing Start Living – We Have Got Only One Life

A few days back I saw one of my friends’ Whatsapp status “Stop Existing Start Living” which put me in a deep thought. The status forced me to think that are we really living our life to the fullest or just dragging it as we don’t have any other option.

Today everyone has got so much busy with the social responsibilities that these have taken over our lives completely. Our most of the time either goes in working in the office or in thinking about how to make more money for better life. We get so much busy with these worldly responsibilities and in making a better future that the today gets completely spoilt.

And the worst affected from this “more money” fuss is the middle-class group with limited income. The worries of providing better and secured life to the children, sending them to the best schools and fulfilling their all the wishes take away the charm of life.

I once read that the situation in which we born are not in our control, but the life we live is somehow in our control. It is completely up to an individual whether he wants to drag the life in the same conditions or tries to change the conditions for a better life.

There are so many things we miss in the busy life like:

Quality time with the kids. This is the thing I keep making my husband understand that he is missing our son’s childhood just because of his job. He is not the only one; there are many who work day and night for a few extra bucks but at the compromise of the family life. Just once try to give some time to the children, look at their mischievous activities and I bet you will forget all your worries.

Trips to dream destinations. My mom owns a shop and every time I ask her to go to any place, the only excuse she has is the loss of business due to tough competition. Once I forcefully took her to Shirdi and asked about the relief she got by taking a break from her regular work? She was really happy and relaxed.

Reading favorite books. After a lot of work in the office and then household chores, there is very less time left for personal activities. And when it comes to compromising on something for more productive work, the only thing gets affected are the personal interests like reading books, watching movies, dancing or workout. Why so, isn’t it our responsibility to think about our personal needs and feed our mind with the things it likes.

So what should we do to enjoy the life to the fullest?

• Eat what you love the most
• Find joy in the small things like walking alone, cooking etc.
• Give time to yourself
• Go to your favorite destinations
• Take break from work
• Spend time with people closer to you
• Listen to your favorite music
• Learn the art of saying no as you cannot please everyone
• Stop worrying about things, which are out of your control

Don’t kill the precious life gifted by god by just running after money and materialistic things. Listen to your heart and live life to the fullest for happy memories. Make every moment so special that when you look into your past, every memory brings a smile on your face. Just try to follow these tips and see the changes in your life.

Would love to listen from you about ideas of living a happy life. Please share the thoughts through comments.

Can Materialistic Things Really Make Us Happy?

I was very upset a few days back and looking for something that can make me happy.

Being a woman the best solution I found is to go to the market and splurge money. No doubt I forgot about all my worries and got a peace of mind.

But for how long?

Is it really the solution for all problems? Can materialistic things really make us happy?

Suppose I buy a lavish phone and feel very happy; but for how long is this happiness going to stay?
Has happiness today just restricted to worldly pleasures and luxurious things?

What about our internal peace of mind?

Actually in this fast paced world and hectic lives, we are completely forgetting about true happiness. We just try to find it out in small things we can buy with money.

The reality is that we should spend money on real happiness and memorable life experiences which can bring a smile on our face whenever we think about them; not on the materialistic things.

Why, because in pursuit of inner happiness, our experiences are what matter more than just the material things like car, home, jewelry etc.

Money Cannot Buy True Happiness

This is not something we are unaware of. We just don’t want to believe, because we don’t want to make efforts to find real happiness. We just look for momentary solutions and move ahead.
So the question is what should we do? Should we stop buying things?

No we shouldn’t; rather we can’t because it is also important for comfortable life.
But we should also take out time and make efforts to collect good experiences and memories.

Let’s take a simple example.

I went to dine out alone, I felt good but for how long?

Next time I went out with a group of my friends, we had lots of fun…. This I am going to remember forever. So, why can’t we take out time to spend with our friends? We have got so much busy in our lives that we manage with the materialistic things only. And every time the blame goes to shortage of time or the responsibilities.

Even this has been proved scientifically that buying expensive things can’t give us happiness, so why should we waste money.

Moreover materialistic things just make us greedy. You never feel satisfied. You buy latest model of any phone. Within months a new model will come in the market and you will start craving for that again. But the true happiness gives you inner satisfaction that stays forever.

So, the gist is that we should not run behind the material thing; we should try to preserve the moments, savor the pleasure and enjoy life to the fullest. Savoring every moment with family, friends and loved ones will bring a lasting smile on your face, which can never be measured by money.

Share your thoughts on how can we get true happiness and spread happiness.

9 Things Which Can Give You Instant Happiness

Have you ever realized that on looking at a smiling kid, you can’t hold back your smile? No matter in which state of mind you are, you will definitely smile back. This is just an example. There are a number of other things or situations in life, which can give you instant happiness or at least a smile that can lighten your mood.

Here I am going to talk about some of these situations. One confession, these all are not only my thoughts. I took help of my friends and ask them about the things, which give them instant happiness. I just thought of sharing these with you, thinking these might help you too.

1. Very first in the list, as I mentioned above is the cute and adorable smile of a kid. 

2. Your childhood images will definitely make you smile and will take you back in those sweet childhood memories. 

3. If you are a pet lover, you will feel great to spend time with your pet. I just get delighted of thinking to meet my favourite pet on returning home. 

4. If you are a food lover, I bet you will feel glad to see your favourite food in front of you in situation when you can’t imagine of getting it in any condition. 

5. A sweet and unexpected message from your loved one can bring a broad smile on your face. 

6. An unexpected call from your best friend can refresh your mood immediately, giving you a great day ahead. 

7. A warm hug from loved one is enough to bring a cheerful and sweet smile on your face.

8. Praising someone. Talking good about others always makes you feel great and the cherry on the cake is the sweet smile you get in return.

9. Making others smile. You bring smile on someone’s face and you will feel highly happy and content inside. You can do anything for this from cracking a joke to helping someone.

Tips to spread happiness

Spread Happiness

Happiness is a feeling and a state of mind filled with positive emotions. It is one of the things which everyone wants to have in his or her life. Life without happiness is considered to be empty and useless. Whatever we do in life is to achieve happiness. We live with family, do jobs, play favorite games and various other things, are done to just get happiness.

I wanted to ask one question to everyone. We always think of getting happiness, do we ever think of making other happy by spreading happiness all around us?

This is an art, which is present in almost every human being. We just need to realize this power. You must have met many people who are always happy and spread happiness all around them. Everyone loves to stay in company of these people who are full of life, energy and enthusiasm.

One of the most important things you need to remember is that you can make other happy when you are happy yourself. A pessimistic person can never make anyone happy. He will rather make a happy person unhappy with his demoralizing discussion. To be a happy person you should have healthy body and most important healthy mind.

Now you must be thinking you can do this? Have you thought of a situation when you share your good or some funny experience with someone, how happy the listener feels. So, spreading happiness is very simple and easy. Just share your joyful moments with your friends and family and make them happy.

Learn to celebrate your achievements, whether big or small, because it is a great medium to spread happiness among others. Happiness comes from doing something without any expectation of getting something in return. Sharing joy and happiness should also be done with the same feeling. When you make other happy, don't expect them to give you something in return. Bringing smile on someone's face is one of the best gifts you can give them and it costs you nothing.

A small tip in the end- If you can't do anything, just share a smile and see the happiness of other person's face. This is one expression which comes from heart. Like yawning, smile is also contagious. So, if you give someone a smile, you will definitely get a smile in return, which will make both of you happy.

So, be happy and make other happy!!

Know How to Become A Happy Person

Every person in this world deserves happiness. Happiness has contagious effect, so you will find more people where happiness is there. But will it always come to us or we need to work to become happy? It’s our responsibility to work on our happiness and find sources and ways to feel happy and spread that happiness in our family, our community and in our society.

You must have met people who look happy most of the time. Are these people naturally happy or they are making efforts to bring that happiness in their life? Sometimes it can be there that they are lucky with an easy life, but it can’t be right every time. They people take particular steps and changes in their thinking and behavior to make their life happy.

Happiness is looking at the positive side of the world, spending quality time on happy things like reading some happy news, feel good news, learning something new.

Know here how you can become a happy person. Take these simple steps and notice the positive change in your life that will fill it with happiness.

Step One- Be ready for Happiness

Take your first step towards a happy life by making your mind that you really want to be happy. You desire to be happy is part of your efforts to feel the happiness. Once you have set your mind about finding happiness you will find many resources that make you feel good like inspirational videos, or some of your hobbies that make you happy.

Step two- OPTIMISM

Once you have made your mind, you will start looking at the things in positive sense and with an optimistic attitude. You can take help of different sources that tell you only about positive things happening in the world like positive news portals. Optimistic thinking can’t come in a day or two, it’s a result of your efforts towards bringing positive change in your behavior and thinking. Happy people recognize that their thinking is the foundation of an inspired process that leads to manifestation. By becoming optimistic, they give their life a direction that helps them make their dreams come true.

Step Three- Chase Your Happiness

Happiness can rarely be found by chance. Though sometimes you might find happiness in sudden situations or at unexpected places, but for this you should always be ready to chase the happiness. Don’t let the opportunity go from your hands. Always be ready to accept every happy moment coming towards you.

Happiness won’t come to you, until you pursue it. Go out, find happiness and enjoy your life happily.

While you may find happiness in unexpected places you must first open yourself to the possibility of happiness and prepare yourself to accept it when you find it. Some people are so miserable that they step right around happiness when they encounter. Don't let this happen to you. What is more, don't simply sit at home waiting for happiness to come knocking on your door. Go out and live life. Think about what currently makes you happy and spend time in those activities and think about what might make you happy and spend time experimenting. The more time you spend actively living your life then the more likely that you will also lead a happy life. 

Let's help each other find the happiness

As I mentioned in my last blog happiness depends on us up to a certain level. Different people opt for various options to feel happy and delighted like some spend time with family, some like to move out with friends, some watch movies and so on and so more. Now I want your ideas to help people fill their life with happiness. You must be thinking how would you do that?

Nothing, you just have to tell me what do you do to feel the happiness around you. What makes you feel positive in opposite situations or what do you do to forget your problems? May be we come up with some amazing ideas and can feel the different world around us. Let's help each other find different ways to feel the happiness and positive energy spread around us. 

What is Happiness?

What is happiness in your opinion? Many people would say it’s a life without any problem or a luxurious life with an ability to buy everything. But I define it differently. I read somewhere which I completely agree with: Happiness is not a problem free life; it’s our strength to triumph over the hurdles coming in our way.

It’s true that no one can avoid the difficulties, but what matters is how one reacts to these difficulties. Everyone wants to lead a happy and successful life. If we make it our purpose of life, no power can stop us from being happy even in opposite situations.

Though we want to be happy, but due to our busy lives we have forgotten exactly what is happiness. Some people find happiness in getting recognition, while some feel happy when they spend quality time with their family and some feel happy with luxuries of life. So, it can be inferred that happiness has different meaning for every individual.

What we need to do is to just find out what makes us happy and take out time to feel that happiness. No one can make us happy until we want it from inside. So just let the happiness come to you and make your life more enjoyable and meaningful.

Don’t look back or wait for future for happiness, just grab every opportunity that can make you happy in present, as it lies only in present.